I know this is gonna make me seem like a jackass, but I don't care. It's me being me. Exposing yet another layer of me.
When I make plans with you and we decide on a specific time, I will be there at said time and you showing up 45 minutes past that time acting like it's not big deal is like a slap in the face to me. Especially when you invited me. I do not buy into that whole "running on gay time" that is an even bigger slap in the face to me. So when you finally decide to show up, expect me to be pissed off.
I know that a lot of it has to do with my "fear of abandonment" which leads into my "fear of commitment". So the fact that I have committed to meeting you and then you are late make it even worse for me.
There it's out there. I've said it.
What are your thoughts? Am I really a jackass because someone doesn't have their shit together and "runs on gay time"?
I don't think you are being a jackass. I also don't think it's unreasonable to expect someone will show up on time if they made plans with you.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I am not a person that likes to be late, it annoys me.
They are the jackass. All of that gay time making plans 45 minutes crap is BS, and the behavior of someone incredibly immature and self-involved. Set the boundary then out it in your box.
ReplyDeleteNot at all. Did he not even text you to say he was running late?
ReplyDeleteThere was a text saying he would be 15 minutes late.
ReplyDelete"gay time" that's a nice way of saying...I'm a rude motherfucker who didn't care enough. Just my thought. But I'm known for being a bit harsh.
ReplyDeletethere's definitely a difference between running a few minutes late and being 45 minutes late. it's disrespectful. if something happened and he let you know he was going to be 45 minutes late, that's one thing. but you can't expect someone to sit around waiting for you for 45 minutes for no good reason.
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